Obviously I have a problem with following through on projects. Yes, I wanted to "blog" but yet I never followed through...so here I am again attempting to commit to an endeavor that is supposed to unveil who I am really am to you and MOST IMPORTANTLY to myself!
Okay enough with the semi-intro now to the JUICY biz!
My girlfriends and I ...which i will now & from here on out refer to them as The Wolfpack email each other everyday making sure we keep up. So recently the subject as been on men, dating, babies, etc. Well here it goes:
Since April of this year (2011--but we have known each other since 2007 *on & off*) I have been interested in one man, oh yes sidenote: He will be referred to as "DJ" for the protection of his identity. As I was mentioning I'm very much smitten with DJ he makes me think, carries a great conversation, and is a cool nerd like me also. We both love the History Channel, travelling, geography...we've talked about the Olmecs, the Mayans, Pangaea, etc.....YES I told you earlier NERDS, but COO L NERDS. But I digress, recently his mannerism has shifted from attentive to checking in sporadically. OH, it's such a small world because I was leaving a party and who do I run into....HIM aka DJ. DJ hugged me, was trying to do that whole caress the arm thing...so the "Old Tiffani" exposed herself & was a bit standoffish and cold towards DJ. I had just called him the week prior to invite him to that party (apparently he was hired to be the party planner)--never heard back from, then I see him there...WTH! Already a long story, trying to make it short DJ ends up at my apartment on Monday night cooking me dinner accompanied by 2 bud lights. We had great conversation...but I find out from DJ that he has a 3 year old daughter! I wasn't shocked at all, I wasn't freaking out...I was unbelievably calm and accepting of this "baggage" DJ has. This is uncharted territory for me, I normally go running for the hills when I find out my "interest" has kid(s). I didn't this time....maturing maybe?
Against my rules, it did get so late that I told DJ he could spend the night...but he would have to be on the couch...so he did sleep on the couch. This morning he tells me I look beautiful...hmmmmm
So in short: I like this man. This man and I have several similarities. This man has a daughter and I'm okay with that.
Some responses from The Wolfpack:
"As much as I hate to admit it, we’re approaching 30 and think of all the things we’ve been through….and we’re “responsible”. Things happen and as much as I’d rather date a guy without kids, when it comes down to it, I’d rather date a guy who handles his responsibilities (or lack thereof) than a guy who is a dead-beat dad." -AG
"I've dated someone with a child before. We didn't have baby mama drama per se. I just felt like his BM (Baby Mama) wasn't very honest and was conniving and it annoyed me. I am on the fence about dating a man with kids because that could be any of us given the wrong circumstances seeing as how we are sexually active. On the other hand, having been there, I want my man to be free and in the air with me, not having to have to contemplate kids and BMs into our future. I guess if I met the right guy I could see myself compromising, if he had everything else I was looking for."-Shante
"Tiff- Out of all of us, you seem to be the best person out of all of us that can handle kids. You have this sort of understanding about kids for some reason. Me, I don’t! I don’t want to talk to anyone that has kids unless God comes down from heaven and hands me the man personally. Lol jk"-AT
3 comments:
Can we edit initials? lol
fyi, I shall refer to you as TWIST from here on out!
This is awesome! And ummm I don't thnk DJ is hiding his identity at all!! LOL
Oooh you have my post up! Nicely written.
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